Stop Calling Yourself Names:
The Self-Care Starter Pack
(Seriously You Can Stop)
$19 gets you started today.
Stop performing self-love. Start practicing it!
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INTRODUCING
THE PROBLEM (WITH A LITTLE HUMOR)
Let's Be Honest About What's Happening Here.
You post self-care quotes on Instagram.
"Be kind to yourself! You are enough!"
Then you close the app and spend the next hour calling yourself every name in the book because you forgot to reply to an email.
That's not self-care. That's performance.
You know you're supposed to "be nicer to yourself."
Great advice. Super helpful. Just one question:
HOW?
No one actually teaches you how to catch harsh self-talk when it shows up.
No one teaches you whose voice you're really hearing when you call yourself worthless.
No one teaches you what to do instead when the mean voice kicks in at 2am.
Until now.
WHAT THIS STARTER PACK IS
Three Lessons. Three Tools. One Framework.
This isn't a course you'll buy and never finish.
It's three short lessons (8-12 minutes each) that teach you:
- How to catch yourself calling yourself names (in real time, not three hours later)
- How to figure out whose voice that actually is (spoiler: probably not yours)
- How to build your first week of self-care practice using the LOVE. FEAR. CHOCOLATE. framework
What's LOVE. FEAR. CHOCOLATE.?
Glad you asked.
It's the model I've been teaching for 20 years:
- LOVE = What lights you up, gives you energy, makes you feel alive
- FEAR = What shuts you down, drains you, makes you feel small (including that harsh voice in your head)
- CHOCOLATE = Where you find joy, support, community, comfort
This Starter Pack teaches you how to identify your FEAR voice (harsh self-talk) and start building practices around your LOVE and CHOCOLATE.
Simple. Practical. Actually useful.
THE THREE LESSONS
Lesson 1
WHY SELF-TALK IS THE FOUNDATION of SELF-LOVE
Stop believing "this is just who I am" and start seeing harsh self-talk as a learned habit you can change.
What You'll Learn:
- How to catch yourself calling yourself names (the Name-Calling Audit)
- The body-first tool that interrupts harsh self-talk in 5- 60 seconds (find YOUR centering practice)
After this lesson, you'll be able to: Notice when you're being cruel to yourself and pause the automatic spiral before it takes over.
Lesson 2
THE 60-SECOND RESET (LIVE DEMO)
Learn the exact 5-step process to interrupt harsh self-talk and choose a kinder response in under 60 seconds.
What You'll Learn:
- The 60-Second Reset protocol (pause, name it, ask a curiosity question, translate, choose action)
- How to use the three curiosity questions when the harsh voice shows up
After this lesson, you'll be able to: Stop harsh self-talk in its tracks using a simple, repeatable tool you can use anywhere, anytime.
Lesson 3
YOUR FIRST WEEK PRACTICE PLAN
Get your daily practice roadmap for the next seven days so you actually use the tools instead of just knowing about them.
What You'll Learn:
- What to track, what to notice, and how to measure progress (hint: it's not perfection)
- What to expect when kindness feels fake and why that's completely normal
After this lesson, you'll be able to: Stop harsh self-talk in its tracks using a simple, repeatable tool you can use anywhere, anytime.
START NOW
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SARAH M., 54, Marketing Manager, Chicago
"I've been reading self-help books for years, but this was different. Kenny doesn't give you affirmations to repeat—he gives you actual tools to use when you're calling yourself an idiot at 2am. The 60-Second Reset has become automatic for me now. I catch myself so much faster."
Jennifer L., 38, Graphic Designer
"I hate toxic positivity and affirmations, but this isn't that. Kenny is direct and honest—'you made a mistake' instead of 'I'm an idiot' still acknowledges reality, it's just not cruel. The Friend Test changed everything for me. Would I say this to my best friend? No? Then why am I saying it to myself?"
WHY $19?
"Why not free?"
Because free means you won't use it.
You'll download it, feel inspired for 5 minutes, and never look at it again.
I've been a therapist for 18+ years. I know what creates change: commitment.
$19 is enough to make you actually use this.
And small enough that you're not risking much.
Think of it this way:
You've probably spent $19 on:
- A meal you forgot about an hour later
- A streaming service you barely watch
- A book you never finished
- Impulse purchases that gave you nothing
This might actually change your life.
$19 for tools you'll use every single day.
For a practice that could fundamentally shift your relationship with yourself.
That's not expensive. That's an investment in yourself.
Hey, I'm Kenny Benjamin.
I'm 60 years old.
I'm a Marriage & Family Therapist with 18+ years of experience.
And I spent most of my life being brutal to myself while helping everyone else.
"I'm such an idiot." "What's wrong with me?" "I'm not good enough."
Every day. For decades.
I thought that harsh voice was just who I was.
It wasn't.
I thought there was something wrong with me.
There wasn't.
I thought I was broken.
I wasn't.
And I learned - in my 40s, better late than never - that you can actually change how you talk to yourself.
Not with fake affirmations you don't believe.
With real tools. Real practice.
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The Self-Love Starter Pack
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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS.
Is this the same as your free content on YouTube?
How many people will be in each focus group?
I've tried self-compassion before and it felt fake. Will this be different?
How long does this take to work?How long does this take to work?
Am I too old/young for this?
What if I don't have time?
What's the catch?
WHO THIS IS FOR:
You're the person everyone comes to for help.
Competent. Capable. "Have it together."
But inside? You're tearing yourself apart.
This is for you if:
✓ You call yourself names constantly ("I'm such an idiot")
✓ You'd never talk to a friend the way you talk to yourself
✓ You help everyone else but attack yourself
✓ You've tried affirmations and they felt fake
✓ You're going through a life transition (divorce, empty nest, career change)
✓ You're tired of performing self-love on Instagram while being brutal privately
✓ You're ready to actually practice, not just consume more inspiration
This is NOT for you if:
✗ You're looking for a quick fix (this requires practice)
✗ You want to just watch videos without doing the work
✗ You're not willing to invest even $19 in yourself
✗ You want free content (my YouTube is free - this is the paid practice)
It's Never Too Late To Start
GET THE STARTER PACK - $19All sales are final.